I am 27- in a dream job, making a lot of money, independent, have good friends and a loving family. I have it all except that I haven’t settled down. If you are shaking your head in disbelief and wondering in what way am I unsettled – well its my “single status”.
In India , we have a concept of “arranged marriages” where one scouts for a life partner through matrimonial sites, friends, relatives or well wishers.
Dad’s good friend is into the business of matchmaking. He takes a look at my bio data and frowns.
“You are making too much money for your age, It will not be easy to find a guy who earns more than you,” he complains.
I cant believe what I just heard.
The thing I toiled super hard for over the years and my accomplishments that make me proud – this guy is talking about that being an impediment in finding a match.
“Well I am not hell bent on finding a guy who earns as much as me, that won’t be an issue”, I say.
What he next says shocks me . “It isn’t about you Myra, its about the boy and his family. Ego issue. People usually don’t prefer women who earn more.”
“We don’t want such narrow minded people Shyam “- that was Dad, who said it without batting an eyelid.
Dad my hero- I wonder why they don’t make such guys anymore.
My dusky skin tone seems to be another issue, I refuse to pay heed to the well meaning aunties who ask me to apply some fairness cream. There is no need for me to camouflage anything. If someone loves me, they need to accept me the way I am.
Meeting prospective grooms is quite a hilarious story- as its not just about the groom but their family as well. Though we meet at restaurants for coffee , the family does come along or insist on another meeting as their views matter too- sometimes more than the boy.
It really amazes me to see many people who are in a hurry to take a decision and try to coerce me to make up my mind soon- when I took 30 days to zero in on a new car, how can I decide about a life partner in 30 minutes?
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“A slice of life through Myra’s eyes” – a fictional tale of growing up and learning some vital lessons about self love, feminism, sisterhood, a working woman and the essence of being a woman in urban India.