Its been a year of bliss- the first year of marriage as everyone says is like a fairytale.
In our case, we took time to discover each other and walk into this new phase taking things as they come.
We were very clear about the division of responsibilities right from day one. He pays the bills , I pay the rent, he brings chicken and fish every weekend, I shop for veggies. I rustle up the dough, he does the dishes. With both of us fairly inexperienced when it came to cooking and managing the house and both leading busy lives pursuing our careers, it made sense to share the load.
We were enjoying this new phase when suddenly the bomb was dropped “When is the good news?” For the uninitiated, it means when is the baby coming for without that you cant really be a happy and complete family, can you?
The funny part was almost everyone right from young and old, relatives and friends, nosy neighbours and the guy at the gym popped this personal question as if it was like asking us “Hows your day going?”.
Funnily I was the one asked more often and I was the one who couldn’t cover up her emotions and display a poker face. My nostrils flared up and cheeks turned red with indignation.
“We haven’t decided yet aunty” I would politely say though I was seething with rage and would have loved to say “None of your business.”
I dont quite get why cant people let the couple decide when they want to have a baby and above all if they really want to have one.
My next door neighbour Sulakshana is married for 8 years and they are a DINK- Double Income No Kids couple who love their life sans kids. But that doesn’t stop people from wagging their tongues and keeping names for the “incomplete unfortunate couple”
Another unsolicited advice which makes no logical sense that couples without kids often get is – “if you are facing marital discord or having a husband who is not responsible and is abusive, have a baby. That solves all issues.” I always marvelled at the optimism of these well meaning advice givers who seem to have a crystal ball and go about telling people about the wonderful life they will soon be blessed with if only they care to procreate.
So I have been asked 4 times today by 4 different people and I swear to God that if someone asks me this question again, my answer is going to be ” We have a tiny problem, I don’t want to go through the difficult process of having a baby, can you be a surrogate mom (or can your wife, sister, daughter be kind enough and help us)? I am sure they wont ever venture near me again.
I keep waiting with an excitement building within but to my disappointment, no one comes with “the good news” question today.
Linking up with #BlogchatterA2ZChallenge- Letter O
My theme for the challenge is
“A slice of life through Myra’s eyes” – a fictional tale of growing up and learning some vital lessons about self love, feminism, sisterhood, a working woman and the essence of being a woman in urban India.